I’m sure by now that you have heard or heard someone discussing Method Man and his feelings about Father’s Day. While, what seems to be him letting off steam, he actually makes sense, although I’m not sure he is completely on track. However, I respect his opinion.
He expressed concerns about Mothers being praised and celebrated with great gifts on Mother’s Day, while men usually receive a homemade construction tie. He mentions that commercially as well, he sees Father’s Day being dropped from the Holiday list because it doesn’t make any money.
In my own experience, especially as a child- each parent took me to purchase a gift for the others parents day. So, if the mom’s you are dealing with are just allowing your kids to make you a tie, and you continue to take the kids shopping buying lavish gifts on Mother’s Day- then that is a personal problem. You need to evaluate the mother of your child, and the decisions she makes as to how you will be celebrated.
As far as the commercial aspect- I can’t say I’ve noticed either way. I received emails about sales and gift ideas for both days.
I want to know also if its safe to say, that more often than not we have more single parent homes and baby mamas and daddies. So, when those relationships are estranged, and the mother is the primary parent, are you really expecting her to shower a non active father with gifts? I mean statistics show, we have a lot of dead beat fathers.. (and mothers- but this is abt the fathers today)
And again, if you are a good father you should get the gift you desire. Are you asking for the gift you want? Its the only way. Teach your kids, “don’t make daddy a gift each year, same some of your allowance to buy daddy a gift, you know chip in with mom”. *shrugs*
He also mentioned that even the clubs let women in free on Mother’s Day, while on Father’s Day, no breaks!
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Please watch this video- and chime in… I really want to know what you think, and if you celebrate one parent more than the other and why.
being that my father has passed, I no longer celebrate with him but I make sure teh men in my life (husband & brother) enjoy their special day as well as every other day- just as they do for me! When it comes to my son, I make sure he recognizes his father, stepfather, grandfather & uncle on thier special day- just as they do for him year round. There is no 1/2 stepping when it comes to saying thank you & today is your day!!!
Hmmm. It is like no one wants to deal with the truth of this situation. Dad gets a bad rap due to the fact that so many of them leave their children alone. Should that mean that the ones who are doing their thing should not get honored – no it does not, but the truth is that in large part men DO walk away without a second glance. Mama is making the sacrifices and she is there. A quick talk with any group of folks – white, Asian, Black, Latino and both genders and you will hear folks in the 25-45 group talking about the lack of attention etc from their dads. Yes, sometimes mama was a big “B” towards him, but often she was because the kid needed shoes, food or she was just plain tired as helz. Men would do well to get on each other about NOT being great fathers than getting upset because too many of them have shirked their duties and it is noted and people treat their relationship and importance with no concern at ll. Leaders lead. Men need to stop talking about it and being about it – tell each other to take care of their dang kids and to have a relationship with them and this treatment will stop.
For the record, my dad has ALWAYS been in my life and is married to my mom going 40+ years. However, I have heard and witnessed some real horror stories from people who have never had that experience and it angers me that men are pretending as though there is not a reason for this situation. Sorry if I blogged in your comments.