As I eavesdropped on a group of seemingly sophisticated ladies, I wondered if there was one honest one in the bunch. They encouraged each other to continue holding on to their unrealistic guidelines for a man.
The demands seemed high, yet the willingness to meet even half way wasn’t there. One woman stated “his credit score better be at least 700,” and before she finished her statement she was speaking of not one but two overdue bills. Another who was average in her style commented that her man had to be “fly”.
I wanted to be someone with guts and a fly mouth for just 5 minutes so I could inform the group of independents that I indeed was listening and to ask each if she possessed that quality that she was looking for. But of course, I wasn’t and there is way too much gun play this week for me to take that chance.
So instead, my lack of courage and high level of common sense forced me to look at myself without the pretty paisley print inside of my sunglasses. Do I have high expectations without being able to offer the same things in return? Do I know if I will be expected to fall into traditional wife roles and if I am willing to do such?
The reality of my self evaluation was a wakeup call. I am not where I want to be, so I have to be mindful that others are pursing personal goals and trying to correct past mistakes (i.e. credit) as well. And I am by no means implying that you can’t want a Barack Obama, or Puffy in your life just because you’re a Chloe or a Keisha.
I want to be aware and in tune with my request and to feel secure in them. I want to know that it will be a little give and take, and that we will not always want to do what we ask of each other. I want to agree that if he does all of the this (yard work), then I will do all of the umm… (I’m working on it).
That is some inspirational stuff. Never knew that opinions could be this varied. Thanks for all the enthusiasm to offer such helpful information here.